Kampala, Uganda | By Michael Wandati | In the complex world of relationships, understanding the desires and needs of the opposite gender can often feel like solving a perplexing puzzle. When it comes to women, their desires are often multifaceted and nuanced, leaving men with a burning question: What do women truly want? Today, we delve into the depths of this enigma, unveiling eight secrets that women wish men could grasp.
From emotional intricacies to unspoken desires, we unravel the mysteries, providing invaluable insights into the female psyche. Get ready to embark on a transformative journey as we uncover these secrets, equipping men with the knowledge needed to foster deeper connections and create lasting relationships.
It’s time to bridge the gap and embark on a path of understanding as we delve into the captivating world of the secrets women want men to know.
1. A good talk is a great aphrodisiac
Many women find talk a great turn-on. For them, talking and feeling loved are very important. Good conversation during walks or while the couple is relaxing can be a great aphrodisiac. A man could tell his woman how much he loves her, which acts as a reassurance that he is with her mentally during those intimate moments.
2. Many women are anxious about their looks
For a couple that has been together for long, sometimes it is natural that women may feel that their partner may find them less alluring. Because of this some women undress only under the cover of darkness. Caring men can sense such anxieties. There is no need to lie and say she’s gorgeous if she isn’t, nor is there a need to say that she is not attractive anymore. One can always appreciate and praise what you do find attractive.
3. For a woman, sex isn’t separate from the rest of her life
On the other hand, men tend to compartmentalise, feeling that stressful aspects of life can be parked mentally and separated from sexual activity. Women need good feelings and experiences during the day to have satisfying sex. How her lover treats her out of bed, greatly influences her response in bed. Inattentiveness, harsh language, rude tones, hurtful words, and criticism can make it difficult for a woman to get involved, feel enthusiastic and be passionate during sex.
4. Don’t hide your flaws
Nothing captures a woman’s heart quite like a good man who wants to be a better man. Women love personal growth, they love a man who is thoughtful and sensitive. They like it when their men recognize a flaw — a short temper, for example, or a regularly sullen mood after work — and love it when they make an effort to address it.
5. Don’t try to fix their world
When something’s bothering women, they want your ear, not your advice. Men feel the need to fix things because they are solution-oriented. But to a woman, really listening is a wonderful, wonderful thing that deepens the relationship.
6. Nodding is not enough
Listening is important, but they also want to know that they are being heard. Nodding along won’t cut it. When she pauses, she’s giving you a cue to respond in a compassionate, caring way. If they tell you that they are upset because their boss gave them a tough time, they want to hear you say, “I’m sorry that work was such a drag for you today.” And remember: Resist the urge to offer solutions.
7. Say it, Again and Again
Women like to be told they look nice, and they like a man who notices without being told. When they are wearing a sexy new dress, for example, they’ll give you major points for saying how hot they look, especially if you mention the dress before they do. If they are looking particularly attractive, if they have a new haircut, if they are looking more fit — let them hear about it.
8. Don’t fear the relationship talk
When your woman wants to talk about the relationship, it doesn’t mean you did something wrong (well, not necessarily). Many women like to talk about the “State of the Union” — what’s going right, what’s going wrong, or simply what’s going on. This is a good thing. An honest, wide-ranging talk can bring the two of you closer.